It’s been 2 weeks since my last post on consistency. I’m wondering how everyone is doing with that and hoping we actually took action and not just liked the post. Personally, it hasn’t been easy trying to keep up; sometimes I stop, sometimes I get back up again, and inspiration honestly has been down. But I guess that’s the truth with consistency, sometimes you do stop but the difference is you pick it up again and keep moving.
So today, I’ll be talking about this thing that has been an issue for me basically since I first joined Facebook, in 2008; no actually, since I uploaded my first dp a few months later!
The Predators called ‘Social Media Toasters’
Every single girl reading this post must have been a victim of these guys; and guys would have had friends or sisters who experienced this (or been the predators themselves).
I understand when people who I do know, or at least have seen around, send messages and try to get ‘closer’. I get it, you were shy to come face to face! But then, guys that I’ve never even met; like what if I’m a guy using a girl’s picture, or I’m a scammer (and most times I wish I was to teach them a lesson); or worse, the profile of a ‘gone girl’.
Oh the famous pickup line ‘Can I know you?’ Urghh!
Or the usual long intro, “I see your pic blah blah, and I want to be your friend, maybe we can be more than friends!’
It’s tiring!
And then, some guys end up disrespecting, it’s so meaningless, I mean, ‘I’m not interested, you now want to beat me?!’
I remember this person who asked for my number, and when I said no, next thing I see ‘F** your a**!’ I was about 15 then, and I was in so much shock, I said a lot of things I’d rather have not. Let’s not even go there.
I get messages from guys on whatsapp, saying they got my number from a group chat, and they just ‘felt like talking to someone’. Are you joking? So I have nothing better to do with my time. You really expect me to be doing nothing with my 24 hrs, and actually have time for a pointless talk, because you just ‘feel like talking to someone’. OK, let me not sound so cruel, some people might be going through things and a whatsapp chat might actually stop them from suicide. Lol, am I the only one that has thought of this?! OK I’ll pray for you, ‘nuff said!
Because I post pretty pictures of myself on Instagram, doesn’t warrant your comments about my body, or the rubbish in your head. It’s sad really, that girls have spoilt themselves on Instagram, showing off so much for the likes and comments, but please we’re not all like that.
I can understand the others, but LinkedIn, really? This is a platform for professionals. You see this girl, she’s fine, possibly go through her profile and she has a lot of potentials; all you think about is how she’ll make a good babe! Really?! I don’t want to get all feminist right now, but honestly, it’s not right. I thought I was the only one who had faced this, till I saw this post from someone complaining about how his sister and many more ladies faced the same nonsense on LinkedIn. Have you belittled ladies to the extent that you think they can’t be professional, or that just doesn’t matter to you?
To sum it up
Yes I know people have found love on Facebook, and there would be so many people waiting to counteract me on this topic; but I still stand on these 3 facts:
- If you don’t know someone, don’t bother them online. If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen.
- People have problems, lives, careers they’re chasing. You don’t text someone you don’t know, because you ‘just feel like chatting’.
- Sum up courage and talk to a girl you’ve been attracted to, face to face, not online.
I feel you have a lot to say on this, what are your thoughts?
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Love,
olufarai
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